Unfortunately I've been sort of seeing a girl who is basically a real deal Mormon. I believe when you die, you die, and you live on in memories and hearts. I don't know what to do. If you really like this girl, might want to show her this. Still, I would be interested to hear your perspective and that of your readers. I just started talking to a doctor he is older and has already finished with all of those steps but already im getting a taste of what its going to be like. If you remain active, Church service is very demanding of our lives в not a Sunday thing. But it does make it hard for me to develop and strengthen our relationship. I miss my husband dearly. His fellow resident is married and seems like a good guy, I want to believe my bf will change.
I would not fear as much as she does, but that is her reality. Hire out as many household chores as you can afford housekeeping, lawn care etc. In fact, when I first met him, I had no idea he was even a full fledged doctor.
Just let things keep going. I am married to an interventional cardiologist. I envy all you lonely doctor wives. Unfortunately I've been sort of seeing a girl who is basically a real deal Mormon. The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church. Read that entire speech and you will see a slew of racist statements. You should not be trying to be exclusive with one person, so go on dates with as many people as you can. I told her that is noble but she would be selfish to marry and work 80 hour work weeks yet if she does marry I can not see any man who would selflessly give over decades for the sake of his wife's career. Plus I just quit my medical interpreting job last month. But I am very lonely indeed, I have married to a doctor for 5 years, he has been struggling with his career change for years with achieving different fellowships and residency in different countries.
I would suggest having a list of chores that need to be done, and anyone can check them off. It is coming close to the time where I will be preparing for the MCAT and it is going to get a lot more hectic than it has been. I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo. That I will be expected to be a full time single parent most of the time. In my experience, life-long member, many Mormons have difficulty thinking outside the box, and putting forth effort to inclue and love. Its always been I who is being tested for patience,loyalty and trusting and trying to adjust with his unpredictable time schedule. Should I bare the pain of being separated from him Which will hurt a lotor do I carry on hoping one day it gets better. For me this has been an opportunity to increase my love, tolerance, compassion and acceptance. Sorry, but it just isn't worth it. This was the biggest one for me.
I hope I can forgive it someday, but even still my anger is red hot. I appreciate all the replies explaining the extent of the aggravation and pain I likely will face. I always felt guilty for feeling bored, depressed or anxious about spending so much time apart from him, but thanks all, for making me realize that I am not alone.
It is a decision he has to come to on his own - hopefully all sped up when he looks around at his current dating pool and eating way too much McDonalds.